At what point do we get tired of holding the grudge? Is this something we have resolved to do for the rest of our lives, knowing that it leads to us not being able to receive forgiveness from God (Matthew 6: 12, “And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven (left, remitted, and let go of the debts, and have give up resentment against) our debtors.”)? What is it about holding grudges that has become “power”? Do we feel like we have such news on someone that could ruin them knowing that God has news on us that could ruin us? God chooses to forgive and toss our sins in the sea of forgetfulness.
What about the offense makes it so hard to move past? Is it even worth being angry about? Did it affect life in such a way that you are experiencing hardship and challenges, or was it a mere inconvenience? Have you noticed that those who wronged you have moved on with their lives? Are you waiting on an apology to be happy? Can you resolve in your heart that you may never get an apology? Can you also resolve in your heart that you’ve placed too much power in the hands of someone who’s not responsible for your happiness?
Look at how much time has been wasted, how many potential friendships that could have been formed, but because we were not “over it,” we viewed all new people in our lives through the eyes of our pain. As much as we want to go around it, forgiveness is a part of love. We cannot love God and allow our hearts to be full of unforgiveness. I understand that some things take time, but don’t allow time to be an excuse to keep you from receiving the release in your heart.